The workplace, we know, is social, not just business. For all the time we talk about the need for data, facts, and scientific opinions, the truth of the matter is that business gets done through people doing work. People are not simple and their social interactions — in meetings, on breaks, in the hallway or by the water cooler — vary across the board.
As a result, many of us feel the need to be nice at work. The dictionary defines “nice” as it relates to a person as “pleasant in manner; good-natured; kind.”
Those are good attributes to have, but “nice” isn’t where you want to be perceived. There are too many pitfalls:
Likable sounds like the same as nice, but it is not. The dictionary defines likable as “pleasant, friendly, and easy to like.”
You can say “no” because you push back on the workload and do it in a pleasant way. You can resolve issues because being likable means you are searching for solutions even though it requires confrontation.
Likable, to me, is the ability to work with differing types of people in a way that protects your interests while still getting things done. Being nice, to me, means you subordinate your needs to that of everyone else on your team and pleasantly go about your business even though there is nothing pleasant about your business.
We’ve all worked with nice people — they are always pleasant in how they treat other people, are always kind — but too often never get anything done.
Not that likable people should treat people poorly; far from it. But likable people get their work done, are approachable, and at the same time stand for what they need in the workplace from their manager and team.
So be careful of the label you acquire at the office. It is important to be likable — but not nice.