One of the great challenges in life is to move from where you are to where you want to be. It’s not easy.
But, there is a path. I’ve been a long-time subscriber to Debra Moorhead’s blog and found both inspiration and perfectly practical advice on how to make change stick. She’s now combined this inspiration and practicality into her new book Wake Up and Create the Life You Want: a Guide to Self-Empowerment.
I’m privileged to share a question, answer, and some commentary each day this week. Today’s question:
Question: Very popular right now is the whole concept of the “Law of Attraction” which basically says to put yourself in a position where what you want can come to you. In your comments about the book you say “If the Law of Attraction doesn’t seem to be working in your favor, you want this book.” Why?
Debra Moorhead: I’m so glad you asked this question; it allows me to address a very common misconception about the Law of Attraction. I’ve coached a lot of people who have a misguided sense of what “putting yourself in a position where what you want can come to you,” means. Let me explain.
I see two common mistakes. The first is that someone learns about the Law of Attraction and thinks, “Okay, I’m going to focus on what I want and let it come to me. I’ll create a vision board and write affirmations and set goals and focus on my healing and . . and . . .and . . .” Most of the time, they focus on material things, or if health is a current issue, they focus on healing. But they continue to go about their lives in the same way as before – doing the same things, and basically thinking the same thoughts.
Even if they create a vision board, and write affirmations and their goals several times daily, they still try to do everything themselves. If you continue to do what you’ve done, you’ll continue to get what you’ve got. When they get an inspired idea to do something differently, they ignore it because, well, “that’s just crazy,” or “there’s no way I’m willing to do that,” or “I can’t do that.” “Quit my job with nowhere to go on Monday morning? Ludicrous!”
If you really feel that the universe is telling you to quit your job, do it. Maybe walking around the city on Monday morning will cause you to take some action or meet someone that will land you your dream job – paying more than what you’re making now.
Don’t believe that could happen? Then it won’t. Just keep doing what you’re doing now, writing your affirmations, languishing over your vision board, setting more and more goals, doing what you’re doing now, and this time next year, you’ll still be writing your affirmations, languishing over your vision board, and setting more and more goals.
The second common mistake is just the opposite approach. Someone quits their job thinking, “the universe is going to bring everything to me and I won’t have to work at all, after all, that’s what I really want.” Then they sit in their apartment, day after day, alone, writing their affirmations, focusing on what they want, and when they get an inspired idea, they can’t act on it because they don’t have the money, or don’t have enough money to execute the idea and have enough to live on for the next month. They don’t see how they’re going to get out of this hole and wish they’d never heard of the Law of Attraction.
In the book I talk about “Delicious Action.” The creative process consists of three parts: Thought, Word, Action. To make a lasting change in your life, you’re going to have to think differently, speak differently, and do something differently from the way you’re doing it now. It begins with thought, but it doesn’t end there. Think it, write it down, and take action on it – inspired action. Wait for the inspiration, and let the universe yield to you, and don’t hold back once you get it. You’ll know the proper timing. Once people get this – oh – S’WEET!
“Delicious Action.” Now there’s a great concept. Wouldn’t you love to be doing some “delicious action” to reach your goals?
Debra Moorhead draws out desire and instills success in people and organizations.
As a Business Development consultant specializing in motivation and training, Debra will make a positive impact on your team, and your profit. With over fifteen years’ experience in systems development and training, Debra Moorhead is bringing her unique talents and experiences as a business executive to those who are interested in becoming their best, and developing their full potential. Debra is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, trainer, and seminar leader who motivates, educates, and inspires others to reach their full potential, and has a strong desire to see you achieve the success you deserve.