Even though one is a Cubicle Warrior and totally prepared for the layoff…the emotions don’t seem to want to follow along. Sure, intellectually, you know what is happening, you know why it is happening, and perhaps you are even glad you are getting laid off. Intellectually, you are ready.
And then you put your glasses in the freezer and wonder how they got there after searching for them for an hour, wondering why you would think to look in the freezer for them.
The emotions of the perfectly prepared layoff simply don’t want to follow the script.
But, that’s OK.
When Kate and I woke up at 4 AM the morning after we were laid off and couldn’t sleep, we got up. We talked. Then I did what GTD followers (of which I am one) do: I did a mind sweep. Write everything down that was on your mind. Get it on paper. Don’t worry about processing it; just get it out of your head and onto a piece of paper.
Mine were all about things that I needed to do and then write about here on Cube Rules. Once I wrote them down, I went back to bed and slept like a baby.
For three days, the emotional aspect of being laid off meant that I really couldn’t get a lot accomplished — too much input from layoff benefit meetings, dealing with the extended family, figuring out all the things that needed to get done — so all I was able to do was write down what was going on in my head, put it in my in-basket, and wait until I was ready to deal with all of it.
A new journey begins was that day. And I have a lot of notes!
In any emotionally charged change, expect that, even if you are well prepared, you will need to simply write down what is going on in your head and process it all later. So write it all down. You’ll be glad you did.